Reminders for Caregivers...

of children...


Um...
If you have a daycare.
Um... it's not okay to let the tv watch the children.
Why? Um...because um... it's not.
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It's not okay to put the baby into the swing
prop the bottle upon a towel and let the child drink until they fall asleep.
Phew..don't ask why. I know it's insane, but um..it's just not okay.
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It's not okay to let THE CHILD WANDER AROUND FOR MORE THAN 2
MINUTES IN THEIR DIRTY DIAPER.

I'm almost 30, and well call me insane but if I poop on myself I'd rather
be under the supervision of an adult who may hold the capacity to empathize
with this uncomfortability. And after they've empathized with this inconvenience
adhere to a personal level of hygeine which would hopefully carry over into the
'work' time bracket.

Heck. Call me crazy but, um... who came up with these stupid insane rules.
I guess it's just not okay.
Um... kinda especially if DSHS have issued you a LICENSE.
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It might make it easier upon you and the children if you adhere to a
clean-up rule. Not just clean 1 hour before the inspector shows up.
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Um...it's not okay to make love in front of any children.
Gees! Let me break this one down for the child care challenged...

This includes holding hands in a romantic manner
Kissing
Groping
Fondling
Any movies or television broadcasts that provides exposure to this
Using romantic words while in their presence.

Why? Um...this is not what you were hired to do jack***.
But, call me insane. Who came up with these crazy psychotic rules?
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Okay, here's the big whopper...

I'll speak really very s-l-o-w-l-y...

I-t's  n-o-t    o-k-a-y  t-o  s-m-o-k-e marijuana or anything else 
for that matter.

Why? Oh. Um. Call me insane, but see when kids are well kids,
they tend to well kind of need supervision to not get into things
that will harm them.

Say this with me....

I don't think smoking or drinking in front of your kids are okay when
you pay me to watch your kids.

I will not smoke marijauna to expose the kids to drugs and insult you
by pretending that you are schizophrenic when you say what's that smell.

Because being a responsible adult or childcare provider whether i have a clean
background record or not, means to have respect for myself and not lie to
the parents when they come to pick up their children.

I am hallucinating when I am under the influence and this is not good for the
kids.

What I do on my own time is no one else's business, but when I go through the efforts
to involve myself with someone else's children risking their health, I am accountable.

This is called being responsible.

If I don't know how to babysit, I will not attempt to graduate from childcare licensing
to place small children in jeopardy.

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Moving along.
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It's not okay to not feed children when they are 'bad'.
This is why there is a system called discipline.
We as humans need food and water to live.

If there is a behavioral problem, we utilize various methods of discipline.
If we don't eat, there will be no FUNCTION at all.

If there is no function, then there will be no child to discipline and enjoy
and teach, etc. etc.
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We don't threaten children.
This is called um...BATTERY.
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We don't touch the children. Um...yeah.
Hun we don't TOUCH the children.
There are psychiatric wards in place for this kind of behavior.
and no...invasion of space is NOT WELCOME.

Sure you can get upset if you'd like. If you are getting upset, this
means your next visit should be the intake.
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Let's see what else.
Belts. I don't think children like these.
Call me mentally psychotic, but I don't like'em so I'm guessing
the kids don't either.

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'Repossession'. This is a huge downer for kids.
Never repossess their happiness by consistently taking aways things
you know they enjoy.

They are not financing a car from you. THey have not bought a house
from you, so belittling their confidence by consistently repossessing
their belongings, whether it be their favorite shirt, shoe, toy, book, string,
anything enjoyable or sentimental. Oh...or their parents.

THis is called reposession. You want to let them know you're in control of not
only the financing, but the entire environment.

It's like calling a child a monkey. Not like "George" on PBS kids cartoons, but
telling them your nothing but a little monkey boy, in a dehumanizing manner.

Um...what you're doing is called dependance. You're entire being is dependant on
your ego. In order to fulfill your ego, you have to recharge your ego batteries, or
'fill up the gas tank' if you will.

So everytime you make the little kid feel like crap, you are boosting your worn down
ego in order to feel powerful and in control.

Someone probably did this to you, or you are probably a disadvantaged person in society
therefore without any actual basis for your being here on earth, or a foundation spiritually
you are DEPENDANT.

You compensate by getting in where ever you can fit in. If this means easy access to a vulnerable adult (a pregnant woman with emotional timidity, elderly, ill, etc.), child, or even pets, you persistently and continuously "prey" on them to feed your foundation which is based on emptiness and uncertaintly, clearly lonely or abused and/or shunned from an environment you so wish to be an accepted part of.

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Moving along...

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The best advice for me to offer those who consider healthy caregiving, not just what appears to be elite, or cute, or professional, or maintaining the status quo, but caregiving that actually satisfies a human being or any being in a manner which leaves them feeling they have purpose in life as well as dignity and independance.

Simply place yourself in that person's shoes, and pretend you have their level of capacity.
Whether it be that of a doctor, a child, an elderly, etc.

Think of how they would respond according to their level of experience, capacity, ability, etc.
When taking this moment to stop, think, review, act, then respond you may just have enabled your access to tap into the undiscovered talents and/or interpersonal skills you need to successfully and satisfactory communication resulting in desired response with others.
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What does this mean?

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It means now you know the difference between insanity, incompetence, character, humbleness, humility, discipline, interactivity, abuse, trial and error, culture, and how to utilize should you every be placed, in  a position of authority.
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Last but not least. Know your boundaries. Just because you wanna stay home with your own kids because you're broke, doesn't mean you should take the easiest route and care for children to recieve a welfare check.

There's so many other things you may be good at rather than letting a few strange kids roam around your house while you watch soap opera's all day long.
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If you are homebound, wanna stay at home with your kids for the first several years to instill that bond and sense of security for your children's wellbeing, please don't take the simple route.

Nothing comes easy in this life. If it's easy it's lying to you.
If you see another family doing something that looks like they are better off than you, please don't try to be the replica of that family. Chances are they suffered and sacrificed to get where they are and you should never get jealous.

Some people make fools out of themselves, dress up like a chicken and stand at the corner of the road for $5.95 hour, because they have created a plan. There plan probably has phases.
They may be at phase I out of 20 phases. If you haven't seen them throughout there journey
and in your eyes, 'all of a sudden' they own a 75 Million dollar mansion. Chances are they sacrificed and don't even care about money.  It really never happened over night. They more than likely have VALUES.

When you have values, you have foundation. Stick to your values and you are sure to never go wrong.

Moving along...
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Complete insanity!
Remember the reminders before you attempt to care for someone else's child.
And mistakes do happen, we are human and not robotic perfectionists, however
be as normal as possible and put your best efforts forward.